'If your husband provides for you and your children, he makes sure you feed very well and pays the bills, you should be grateful and let him live his life. He can have mistresses outside. Don't you know that men are polygamous in nature? Just pray he doesn't get one pregnant and as long as he doesn't bring them home, you should not be found complaining.' I heard this a lot while growing up.

And when she complains because it hurts her, what he is doing, she is blamed and called a fool for allowing herself to love a man that much. 'If you don't want to die untimely, pretend you don't know he is cheating,' she is told. 'You should never love your husband that much because you will only hurt yourself.'

This is coming from the same people who ask a girl whether she loves the man enough to marry him. A wise woman should allow her husband to have as many mistresses as he wishes. Single women are mentally prepared for this. Only a fool complains especially when the husband has money. I know so many of my friends who are dying slowly. Some of them their husbands cheat openly. They are always treating STDs and crying when no one is there or in the middle of the night. They wish they can get away but the fear of bringing shame to their families won't let them.

Now, I am an adult and this teaching, this very thing I accepted as a child as what should be, is now to me, total Nonsense. I am a human being. I have emotions that should be respected. It's okay for him to cheat, travel as he likes to meet his women, and I can't even keep casual male friends? Can we be treated better? Can someone educate our men and mothers. People made the world to be like this. Only people, we, can change it. I care about married women who wish the world was different because of the treatment they receive from their husbands. It disturbs me that they bottle it up or choose to talk about it on relationship pages on social media with their identities hidden. I'm worried that they have no where to go if they decide to leave. Going back to their families is out of it because in most cases, they won't be accepted back. They are still there because they are broke. They can't leave because of their children. Who will feed them if they leave?

We should START by unlearning.