One Night in August: It's Only, 2021

ONIA #36

Boundaries are not about creating distance, they're about giving the people we love guidelines about how we want them to love us. Without boundaries, my life becomes a constant cycle of being the victim and rescuing others -- I do things because I feel like I don't have a choice, and then I get mad about feeling powerless and do things to feel vindicated. With boundaries I can see there's no need for that cycle. All I need to do is tell people what I need in a loving way and watch their response. What they do with my boundaries is never my responsibility.