Give up guilt ! Give up shame ! Be yourself ! Do what you want ! Live your best life ! Don't live for other people, don't follow the wrong path to appease someone elses wishes. People are entitled to their opinions, but you're not obligated to agree, nor follow their suggestions or advice. You can't control other people, but you can control yourself, and you can control how you react to other people, misery loves company, and the miserable twats who are miserable creeps will try to bring you down, do not give other people the power to affect your emotions, do not take things personally, just because someone else is having a bad day and honks at you for coming to a complete stop at the stop sign, no need to react. Think how miserable they must be living inside their own head. I worked at a call center and hold times were over an hour and every single person would be upset by the time they got to talk to someone, and they would yell and cuss, but they weren't mad at me, it was the situation, the circumstances, life is designed to grind you down, they want you to give up and go along with the status quo, they try to force and dictate what you think and feel and how you act. Fuck that noise. it's very powerful once you flip the switch in your head and simply not give anyone the power to upset you, they're having a bad day, but it was before you interacted with them, they're frustrated, and often don't have the coping skills to relieve their frustration they're confused, they don't have the vocabulary or horse power under the hood of their skull cap to adequately express themselves, so they scream and curse like a petulant child. I'm being very sincere, and it can save your life, it can lower blood pressure, reduce or eliminate anxiety. All you can control is yourself. Next time someone is angry, talk slow and calm, do not raise your voice, do not return their negative energy. If in a work capacity, you are there to help, what do they need, do not tolerate abuse. If in traffic, it's great to just smile and wave, it often gets them more upset. It's an amazing feeling to watch them boil over and to be impervious to their venom and bile they're shooting your way. All you can do is your best, leave the past in the past, and you have a chance to start fresh and new every single day, just strive to be better. Live your best life. Follow your bliss. Live within your means, pay your bills, satisfy responsibilities and obligations, but beyond that I say do whatever you want as long as it doesn't hurt someone else. Consenting adults in the bedroom can do anything and everything that works for them. with your clothes on, same goes for outside of the bedroom. Release the chains, do more than survive, LIVE, thrive ! You got this, you are forgiven, you are loved, do it for yourself. Who do you hurt by being grumpy ? only yourself, do what makes you happy.
